A Manifesto of Choices

I have met some amazing people through my various blogs and when Eden did this post a couple of weeks ago I got chatting via email with another lovely Kelly and she shared some words with me that I found unbelievably inspiring! She has such a positive life philosophy as a person and a mother and it is all about choices.

I think we all take for granted the fact that we have choices and we fail to see the power that it gives us over our lives. The choices we make influence how happy we are, how satisfied we are, how much we affect the people around us.

Yesterday I made a choice that I am not proud of. Two years after taking the keys for some houses we built, our builder is STILL fixing stuff up that wasn’t done properly. To say it has been a frustrating process would be the understatement of the century so yesterday, when a breakdown in communication led to yet another delay in getting something done, I lashed out. I specifically chose to voice my anger and frustration despite knowing that the person who was delivering the message was doing the best that she could. So not only did I choose to negatively impact her day, I also chose to negatively impact my own. And I am still feeling those negative effects today. Silly me.

A few weeks ago my friend Peggy made a HUGE choice and re-structured the role she has in her business so that she can pursue a life that is more fulfilling. I love it when people quite dreaming and CHOOSE to make things happen! I also love this post from Peggy about how she chooses to deal with angry and aggressive people. I have taken note as I think it is a GREAT strategy for dissipating bad energy.

Because to me, that’s what choices are all about, choosing the good energy over bad. I am a pretty sensitive person so bad energy can drag me into the depths of loathing and despair pretty quickly. And I am sure I am not Robinson Crusoe there!

So today’s manifesto is all about the power of choices – I hope you like it!

Comments ... oh they do make my heart sing!

  1. I love this.

    It reminds me of the 90/10 Principle – 10% of life is what happens to us, 90% is decided by how we choose to react

  2. I love this SO much Kelly! Can I print it out and put it on my wall (unless there’s a version I can buy?)

  3. Brilliant! I love how you reflected on how you dealt with the unfortunate situation, you’ll learn so much from that Kel.

    Thank you for the mention, it makes me smile when someone stands up and notices the humble things I have to share. I particularly love this bit in your manifesto: “We can choose our reactions to any given situation and how much we let the words and actions of any one person affect our life.” So, SO true. Well done Kelly. 🙂

    • thank you Peggy. That is my favourite line too … along with the one that one choice doesn’t define us but a series of choices does.

  4. Love this!
    A long time ago someone wise once said to me… “The point is YOU CHOOSE… in everything, YOU CHOOSE.’ I still suck at making and owning my choices but I’m working on it.

    • Thank you Kate! And yes, as you can see from above, I too make sucky choices! I love your words about owning your choices. I reckon you’re probably not giving yourself enough credit – you probably own your choices more than you think!

  5. Lovely! (and you’re still lovely, even if you grumped at some poor unfortunate 🙂

  6. Love this Kelly!

    I hope you don’t mind me sharing my favourite quote about choices:

    “I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both you and your children may live” Deut 30:19

    It’s what Moses said to the children of Israel just prior to them entering the promised land. I know many people might not appreciate the religious aspect of the quote, but I love the sense of grandeur it evokes. I love the idea that your whole life – and the life of your children – is set before you, and it’s up to you to choose the best path to follow.

    And what does choosing life mean? Well, to me it means to choose a response that nurtures the physical, spiritual, emotional, or mental vitality of yourself and others. And it takes discipline and honesty to do that – attributes which you obviously have in spades. 🙂

    • I would never mind you sharing ANY of your thoughts Karen!! You always take my thinking to a higher level – as is the case here again! THANK YOU

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